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“Don’t Let The Light Go Out!”

Last night I was looking forward to today. I was looking forward to returning to St. Paul’s Anglican Church, after two weeks of being ill, and not being able to attend. I always miss going to church, but during Advent I particularly miss it. Advent is probably my favourite church season.

Today is the third Sunday of Advent called Gaudete Sunday. Gaudete is just a Latin word for rejoice. Many churches refer to today simply as Rejoice or Joy Sunday. I like the sound flow of Gaudete more than rejoice or joy, and when you’ve spent eight years of your life studying Latin, you’ve got to take advantage of every opportunity that arises to use it.

I went to bed last night, with a good feeling and looking forward to lighting the third Advent candle, the one for joy, that’s on my table top Advent wreath and the first candle, a joyous event, in my menorah. The menorah was a gift from a former flatmate, who appreciated my horrible latkes because I tried to make a Channukah celebration for her when she couldn’t get home to be with family.

I was looking forward to wishing friends a Chag Channukah Sameach!, and reminiscing on FB with my friends about Channukahs past. One of my favourite memories was when Ilanna came to my home and made latkes so we could enjoy the dinner, and then chanted the blessing as we lit the candle. This is one of the times of year that I am so glad that I have been blessed to be active in the interfaith community, and I went to bed happy.

Like many people I wake with my radio alarm. It starts quite softly and gradually the volume increases. This morning, the first words I heard were, “12 killed in a shooting targeting the Jewish community celebrating the first night of Channukah on Bondi Beach, Sydney.” I sat bolt upright. My first response was to pray. I prayed not only for those people in Australia, but for my friends Shelly and his daughters, Paul and Sheilagh, Ilanna, Rebekkah, Judy, Friedelle, Lisa and the very loving people at Beach Hebrew Institute, Adath Israel, and Beth Tzedek synagogues that have always welcomed me with love and open arms. Inviting me to participate as much as I can and helping me to understand what was new to me. After I prayed, I cried. Actually the prayers and the tears probably combined. I continued to cry while I prepared to go to church and celebrate our day of joy.

I have not yet contacted any of my friends. I don’t wish to intrude upon their pain, but I will begin to reach out to them before sundown. I just wish to let them know I love them, and I am here to stand with them.

I have always experienced Channukah as the Jewish holiday that people are happy to share. Rather than gathering in their homes to celebrate, this holiday is taken into the community and others are invited to join in. As someone once said to me, “We love to share our candles, our calories, our music, our fun.”

My favourite Channukah song was written by Peter Yarrow, of Peter, Paul and Mary. It is called Light one Candle. This year, in particular, the chorus is very appropriate:

Don’t let the light go out.
It’s lasted for so many years.
Don’t let the light go out
Let it shine through our love and our tears

Tonight I will light the third Advent candle on my table and I will say Gaudium Omnibus. I will also light the first candle in my menorah and say Chag Channukah Sameach. I will do the best I possibly can to keep the light shining bright.


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Waiting around during Advent 1

When Amazon first introduced its “next-day delivery,” and people began to expect instant gratification I would joke and say, “Advent is good preparation for the apocalypse.” Some of those who heard me actually thought it was funny and would giggle too. A few years later it didn’t seem so funny. The World Health Organization had declared a pandemic, and suddenly “next-day delivery” was a thing of the past. There were product supply shortages and logistics difficulties. For a few people the apocalypse had arrived, and they found it so difficult to be patient. This impatience branched out into other areas of society, health care, meeting the needs of seniors and people with physical or mental challenges, food shortages, travel, and the list goes on. However, although some of us lost family, friends, colleagues, or acquaintances, most of us survived and did our best to return to what we considered our normal lives of yore. Yet, much of the old normal couldn’t be retrieved. There are still, some 3 and half years later, shortages in some areas of life, some businesses and services don’t even exist anymore, and there are still logistics problems.

I have a new appreciation for Advent. Although it has long been my favourite season, since those days of limitation it has become even more wonderful for me. It is a time when we focus on getting ready. We take time when there is excitement in the air of what is to come. It’s that anticipation that causes the excitement and gives us the patience to wait. In the waiting, we get to decorate, to visit with friends, to enjoy snowball fights (when there is snow) to drink eggnog, coffee, hot chocolate and to eat treats.

We also get to reach out to those who don’t look forward to the future. We get to share food, warmth, shelter, medical care, a smile, a listening ear, a hug, and a compliment, and we take time to accept what others have to offer.

I love this season of twinkling lights–some electrical and some the glow of candles. I love hearing the advent stories, being reminded of promises made and then kept, and the promises still to be fulfilled but the certain hope they will be fulfilled. I love this time of inward reflection that leads to outward expression, and waiting. I even love the sentimentality of some of the modern Christmas/Chanukah movie craze that follows the theme of abandonment, family, closeness, cynicism and reaching out–because saccharine though they are, they can, if for a short time, give a warm glow–and for some, those super sweet movies are the only warm glow around.

Unlike in days of yore, when people fasted for the four weeks of Advent, the modern season can also be a time of overindulgence. There can be too much to eat, and there can be too much to drink. For a stress eater like myself, while working on a thesis and getting too little exercise, this is not a good thing. Eggnog is one of my favourite drinks–and it doesn’t matter if it’s with or without.

Today’s first Sunday of Advent church service stressed the waiting and the hope. The sermon stressed reaching out to others, being and working in community, and both giving and receiving hope and comfort. Two of the choir members sang a perfect duet anthem, Mary’s Son, the Prince of Peace. This is the first church I have attended with more male voices than female voices. It’s quite different.

Following the service we went to the church hall to enjoy coffee, treats and birthday cake for a member who enters a new decade today, and to view a beautiful nativity display. I think there were about 13-14 different creches. They were from various countries, made from different materials and were made by people of different ages. It was interesting to see the different expressions of nativity. I hope that the display is done again next year. When I put away my Christmas things I will make sure my various nativity sets are at the front and not the back of the storage shelves.

Sometimes new ways of waiting can be found. This year I received a new Advent calendar. Each day’s box contains 40-50 pieces of a bigger jigsaw. Mine is a nativity scene, and today I was able to do the first part when I returned home from church. I found it an excellent way to relax and reflect on the morning’s events.

Tonight at 7:00 I hope to join others for something I’ve never experienced before. The churches in town are participating in a joint Advent walk. I love when various church traditions join together for activities, and I’m quite looking forward to this one. We start at St. Celia’s Roman Catholic Church, then move on to St. Paul’s Anglican Church, and finally end up at Grace United Church–where there will be more food. Each year the order of churches. changes.

Many of us are waiting during this particular Advent in different ways. We are waiting to see what transpires with many governments, and one large government in particular that is changing leadership. We are waiting to see what emerges within the context of our faith-filled hope. One of the concerns that I and many others far more intelligent and knowledgeable than I hold in the midst of this waiting, is the usurpation of Dietrich Bonhoeffer to the Christian Nationalist cause. The Bonhoeffer being vocally, cinematically and journalistically portrayed by some is the very antithesis of the Bonhoeffer that lived. So, it seems to me to be fitting to conclude my ramblings about my love of the season of waiting with a few stanzas from one of his poems:

Waiting Is An Art

Celebrating Advent means being able to wait.
Waiting is an art that our impatient age has forgotten.

Those who do not know how it feels to anxiously struggle
with the deepest questions of life, of their life,
and to patiently look forward with anticipation
until the truth is revealed,
cannot even dream of the splendor of the moment
in which clarity is illuminated for them.

And for those who do not want to win the friendship
and love of another person—
who do not expectantly open up their soul
to the soul of the other person,
until friendship and love come,
until they make their entrance—
for such people the deepest blessing of the one life
of two intertwined souls will remain forever hidden.

Whoever does not know
the austere blessedness of waiting—
that is, of hopefully doing without—
will never experience
the full blessing of fulfillment.

For the greatest,
most profound,
tenderest things in the world,
we must wait.

It happens here not in a storm
but according to the divine laws
of sprouting, growing,
and becoming.
-Dietrich Bonhoeffer translated from the German by O.C. Dean Jr.

Advent blessings and patience to all.